London Grammar - Hey Now (Bonobo remix)
I am getting sick of the Feminist movement in Western society. Comparing it to what’s happening in places like Saudi Arabia, your little social issues thing is a joke. It’s like they want to make everything about them. Claiming that a man spreading his legs while sitting is some dominance issue, claiming that only men commit crimes, ect.
I hear a lot of social equality issues come up under feminism, but a good 90% are invalid. Claiming that boys need to stop bullying girls in school is a lot more harmful than you might think. In actuality, boys actually get bullied more than girls and have a higher suicide rate. Women are actually the majority gender in bullying other women. With this info, to say that men should tech their sons not to bully girls, how about telling the parents not to bully other children. Sounds a bit more equal, doesn’t it? No gender blaming, and the problem does get a solution. Claiming that females models have to fit a certain image is correct. That is what they are hired for and that is what they consent to. I personally fear for the health of people who starve or harm themselves to fit the image. However, I acknowledge that both genders have to deal with this. Male models have to look a certain way. They have to have perfect hair, bone structure, muscles, smile, legs, ect. If they don’t change themselves to look perfect, they will be fired, or heavily edited. Sounds familiar right? Women also deal with this. To assume that men don’t and to ignore the other gender that is experiencing the exact same thing is insulting. It’s like spreading around that racism about Native Americans is wrong, but passing off the struggle of other races as if it doesn’t exist and if anyone else tries to bring it up, they are racist for not focusing on the native Americans. The job struggles and child assumptions really get to me as well. If a child thinks of a man when he imagines a fire fighter, than it fine. That’s what he sees on television. Children also see men when they thing of villains and criminals. When they think beautiful, they think of a woman. When they think cheerleader or model, they often think woman. There is kind of a trade off. Men get made fun and get called feminine for being being cheerleaders, nurses, models, ect, just as women are told being a firefighter, football player, or police officer would make them seem manly. To pass off your side of the issues as the ONLY issues is insulting.
When I was younger, I was told that I need to put women first, protect them at all costs, pay for all of their meals, and tell them that they are beautiful no matter what. I poke with a friend who grew up with me who claimed that girls did not get a similar speech. they were told to put themselves first, that they are pretty no matter what but the same couldn’t be said about men, and that Men need women, but women don’t need men. When I was younger, I was told that men and boys are dirty, violent and stupid while girls were beautiful and intelligent. And while we’re on the subject, facebook and tumblr post seem to advocate for women with poor self esteem for their bodies, telling them that they are all beautiful. Which is fine. But there are literally no pictures of men as examples. It makes us feel left out as if women are beautiful no matter what they look like but men are on their own. It’s not as if women don’t judge by appearances as much as men do. My own teacher in grade school told me that I had to look good and/or be rich if I ever wanted to get married (as a way to get me to do a ‘what would you like to be when you grow up assignment’) I’m not saying that women don’t have expectation planted in their minds at young ages or that they don’e have struggles, but again, to assume that one gender has no troubles in the same subject, especially a social problem, is insulting.
I keep hearing ’ I don’t wear this for you’. When addressing a man when a male makes a comment or even looks at your clothing/make-up choice, but being fine with women commenting on it (and even criticizing it.) I would like to point out that people absolutely dress for potential mates. Both men and women pay attention to their appearance in hopes of attracting a mate. this is in our core. Men wear cologne, change their hair, try to look as fit as possible, and even do dumb stunts to get a women to notice him (or whoever) and women often wear perfume, wear their hair different, wear different clothes, ect. too attract guys.
I am also tired of the constant contradictions. The same feminist (male or female) will claim something like ‘no one gender is better at leading than another’, then will immediately claim that ‘if women were all in charge instead of men, the world would be a better place.’ This basically cancels out your first claim. Telling convicted rapists and sex offenders (or even just suspects) that they deserve the worst punishment for their crimes when they are men, but protecting the criminal when they are female is not okay. If you honestly believe that the same crime committed by a women is any less horrible, then you are not for equality. Women claim that their bodies and actions should not be influenced by another gender, yet they want to control the actions of another gender and call it justified. There are actual feminist groups who go around trying to make female criminals seem less like criminals, while making men with minor crimes seem like monsters. They even try to change laws so that certain crimes cannot legally be committed by anyone of the female gender (and occasionally succeed). It’s okay for a man to hit a woman, but it is perfectly fine for a woman to hit a man, not that I am for violence at all. It just saddens me that the response for a man hitting a woman is ‘wife beater, monster, abuser’ but a woman hitting a man just gets a ‘I wonder what he did to deserve it?’ Saying that it is not okay to insult a women’s body (let’s say…small breasts) but insulting a man’s body (let’s go with small penis) is completely acceptable is also not okay. This doesn’t sound like equality to me.
The whole assuming every guy is a potential rapist is beyond insulting. If you can put an adjective in front of ‘guy’ and it’s insulting, maybe you shouldn’t say it. ‘…every black guy is a potential rapist’ now seems a lot more intolerant, right? To assume that just becuase some people do that means that the entire group does it is insulting.
What really disappoints me about this movement the most is that unlike African Americans in the Civil Rights Movement (At the time, very important in the US), from what I have seen, despite claiming to be for both men and women and being for equality, Feminist have made no effort to take some of the legal perks away. In the Civil rights movement, even when they were considered less than the oppressors, they still fought in wars, turned in legitimate criminals, and usually did it all without insulting the other races. I have seen no effort to force women in to the selective service so they can also be drafted like men are. It has made no effort to change the law that says that a woman cannot rape a man. No effort was made to change the law saying that a man must pay for child support for the woman who raped him, and I have seen nothing about fixing women getting considerably less jail time for the same crime as men or women with a child abuse record being somehow more credible than a law abiding father for custody battles (women winning a vast majority at roughly 90% with or without past of child negligent/abuse). If you were really about equality, you would try to change these laws as well.
It isn’t that I don’t believe that women are being oppressed, I just don’t believe it for people in The US, Canada, Australia, Most of Europe, or certain parts of Africa. People don’t seem to understand that in places other than the US, women have positions on power. People not being able to go outside without a male escorting them or not being able to drive because of your gender are real equality issues. Being called bossy (don’t even get me started on that), being told to abide by a dress code at school, and even being cat called on the side of the road (women do it to) are not real equality issues. Instead of contradicting yourself, instead of assuming the nearest male to you is a rapist, instead of ban bossy, how about we ban the ban of female drivers. How about we change sexist laws, even if they are beneficial to females. How about we tell raise our children not feel ashamed to be a certain gender. Seriously.
Holocene (BA$$Y remix) - Bon Iver